A green little bird told me one thing today which got me pondering: when a person thinks something or someone is too dear to him or her, the common practice is to hold on to it as tight as possible.
That’s the so call common practice but what do you think?
For you, you might call it caring and valuing the existence or that something or that person, for me it’s call strangulation. If a person who loves you wrap their fingers tightly around your neck , I would be wondering- why do they always hurt the one they love in the process of protecting them?
I feel that when you are over protecting or over valuing a thing, you loose your natural ability to think and judge properly of your actions and the effects towards that thing or person. You love that Jimmy Choo so much that you cannot bring yourself to wearing it. The only light that its seeing is your cabinet light and sooner or later it either go out of fashion or it starts to rot due to underusage of it. The same applies to another human being. Over protecting and over guarding a person all the time is not the best solution because you usually end up hurting them more along the way rather than protecting them the way you intended it to be because you lose count of the amount of strength you use to hold on to that person’s neck. When you realized that you are not giving the person enough air and wants to relax your grip a little, you will feel insecure so you decide to hold on even more tightly than you originally did, thus suffocating the person and killing him or her even sooner than expected.
It’s never a good move to hold on to anything too tight in this life, irony is- it includes your life. The saying teaches you to hold on to your dear life but if it’s really time to go, there is nothing much that you can do.
My advise is: Give it room. Give it space. Let it breath and we see how it grow/go from there. Never kill it with your own two hands.
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