Skin Deep Beauty

Beauty is skin deep, period.

Despite all the surgeries that you are going to do (or had done) or whatever amount of skin care products that you are applying on your face, your beauty will wither away in a couple of decades but your skin deep beauty, your beautiful personality – it is one that you are equipped with till the day you leave this world.

Choose your partner based on who they are and what they are, not what they look like because at the end of the day, they will all look dry and wrinkly in a blink of the eye.

blendedme@1132 Hour 

Suicide Mission

Some people just don’t know when to call quits, even when they are hanging by a thin thread. They are neither sadistic or retarded – they are just plain morons who not only want to destroy ones life but tries to drown everyone else with their own sorrows or pathetic claims.  I believe they aim to achieve a slow, painful, mass murder/death.

In plain words, they must always drag other people into the pool of mess that they’ve created just for the sake of it.  Stop all those big talk or show about standing up on your own feet and your self declared independence of anyone because it’s just plain sickening for those of us who knows for sure that you will fall back on your knees crying and saying all those good things that you know you will not be able to fulfill.  Jeez, just snap out of it.

Only two words to describe such person:  Helplessly Selfish/Pathetic (pick your choice)

blendedme@ 1034 Hour 

Poison

Man are equipped with multiple natural self-defense system.  Some comes hand in hand with evolution  so that they can survive among the fittest but as time passes and they are less threatened by nature or their surroundings, like what Plato said:  ”When man starts to have more time on their hands, they began to craft and create things beautiful things even if they are less functional”.

As they say:  one step leads to another.  Then, when man are free  at least they put their time on their fingertips to create beautiful things which some turns out to be masterpieces of modern Art.  Now, when man are free they put their time to talking and most of the time, nothing good comes out from it because they talked so much in a day and the result of that is:

1. Tthey won’t remember nor realized what they said cause they’ve said too much

2. When they ran out of facts, they start to turn to rumours and when they ran out of rumours, they themself will start a new rumour

Hence, the saying that the most harmful part of a human is neither his fighting skill or how deadly he is built but it is the mouth.  Words can make people happy but it could anger and destroy a person as well.

Before you open up your mouth and say something insensible or irrelevant, think twice only then talk.  No one would mark you as an idiot who thinks slow.  Those are actually words of wisdom that will be coming out.

blendedme@0927 Hour

25th July 2011

Take It or Leave It: Advices

Advices comes in all kinds of shapes and words. To rule the world with one single universal advice to everyone would be fatal as everyone’s perks and quirks are different. In simple saying:  One man’s meat is another man’s poison.  T

Some advices motivates and gives you the strength to go on but some just gives you a false impression on your doings and misleads you.  The dilemma with life is you will never know which is the best advice out there for you so what you have to do is: listen clearly, decide carefully what you should listen and what you should not and then after you’ve acted your decision, do not regret.

Do not ever listen and agree too eagerly and do not ever listen and reject too hastily.  Look both ways.  Listen to both ways.  Decide which is the better one.  Take it, or Leave it.

blendedme@ 1612 Hour

The World is Borrowed

“The world is  borrowed to us only for a limited time. The things that we borrow, we must return.”

Grandma, approaching her 95th birthday told me this recently and I know she is talking about herself. This are the words spoken by the strong woman whom I’ve know for over 20 years and telling me words like this implants this fear of losing her to old age.

However, it opens up my eyes on how well she is taking care of herself and preparing herself for the next path of her journey fearlessly. She is one hell of a Grandma.

blendedme@ 1423 Hour

Unchanged

The things revolving around us are changing rapidly at a worrisome pace but one thing that will remained unchanged for eternally, literally forever and ever is the love towards both my mum and my dad.

My two dearest bui bui, I love you two the most in the whole, wide world.

blendedme@0025 Hour

A New Cycle

The end of one sentence leads to the start of a new sentence.  The end of one journey leads to the start of another.  A circle of life.  All this phrases shares a similar meaning:  Something that have started will never end.

This is the end of my 5 year journey but likewise it is also the start of a new chapter in my life and one thing is for sure:  The start of this 5 year journey memories will never end throughout my life.  I am talking about graduation, the part where you end your university life.  I honestly never thought it would be one of those things that makes you want to hold on to it tightly and never let it go because studying has always been a huge weakness of mine.  In short, I hate it.  I read the word “studying” unlike how the dictionary define it.  I read it as “you can never study without dying”  because you can never spell studying without dying and studying equals to dying for me but wow, now that everything has come to an end, I wish for it to never end or at least not end in such short period of time where I finally get to know more people and those are people who are worth getting to know with.  I wish there was some grace period that I could end this farewell properly and graduate with a bursting fulfilling feeling instead of feeling like a lump of wet soggy hamburger because I never really got to say goodbye to lots of people so I thought the best way to carry my message through is by this post since i have failed to do so in a proper manner.

To each and everyone of you, I want to thank you for molding me into who I am today.  I can now stand here, look back and agree with myself that I am definitely more mature, understanding and honest to myself and also to other people than how I was 5 years back.  I was a timid person who always want to hide behind others’ shadows and refuse to face the reality of the world.  I might still do that at times nowadays (though rarely) but MMU has definitely changed my life.

There are few important stages in life.  The first is the period before you enter University.  Some of you might already know what you wanted to do in life, which course you want to study but it wasn’t the same for me.  It was a very tough decision because I can never decide what I want to do so in the end, studying Law was actually my Father’s choice and not mine.  Maybe I was trying to escape responsibility by not choosing or I was just simply a confused person but either way I ended up in MMU and heck,  now that I am out of it I want to be back in it.  Argh, life is annoying sometimes with all this small little pricks poking you all the time.  I thought of one joke- not being offensive but I’ve read this off somewhere in the internet:  ”Man is a weird species.  They are bore and born by a woman but they spend their whole life trying to get back in”

Joke aside, I just want to thank you all for being there at all times.  Each and everyone of you.  You may know who you are, you may not know who you are but at one point of time, all of you have been very helpful to me especially those that I bother hours before an important paper asking for some notes or tutorial answers  Some of you are like family to me- brother, sisters.  You are the ones that I can confide anything without fearing or doubting for a second at 3 a.m. in the morning or those that would accompany me to do crazy things that I would never have done and without you guys there standing and supporting me while I am falling, I won’t be who and how I am today, standing at where I am.  Each and everyone of you gave me an opportunity and taught me very valuable lessons in life in ways and manners that I would never have expected it but I am grateful and thankful to you all.

I had the most fun of my life in this 5 years out of the many many ones before.  5 years back, I came to University in 2 colours:  black and white but during the course of the journey, each of you painted a colour on me and 5 years later I am not picture perfect but I am at the very least a multi colour piece of picture.   Each stroke, each dab, each splat leaves a sentimental value in me that I will look back somewhere in the future and laugh at the moments when we had our laugh.

Good bye, and good luck to all of you.  Let us all step bravely into the next important chapter of our life and do keep in contact in the process- Law Graduates of Batch 2006.

Missing you all dearly even though it’s not even been a week.

blendedme@ 0551 Hour

The tree of Circle of Life

No Air

A green little bird told me one thing today which got me pondering: when a person thinks something or someone is too dear to him or her, the common practice is to hold on to it as tight as possible.

That’s the so call common practice but what do you think?

For you, you might call it caring and valuing the existence or that something or that person, for me it’s call strangulation. If a person who loves you wrap their fingers tightly around your neck , I would be wondering- why do they always hurt the one they love in the process of protecting them?

I feel that when you are over protecting or over valuing a thing, you loose your natural ability to think and judge properly of your actions and the effects towards that thing or person. You love that Jimmy Choo so much that you cannot bring yourself to wearing it. The only light that its seeing is your cabinet light and sooner or later it either go out of fashion or it starts to rot due to underusage of it. The same applies to another human being. Over protecting and over guarding a person all the time is not the best solution because you usually end up hurting them more along the way rather than protecting them the way you intended it to be because you lose count of the amount of strength you use to hold on to that person’s neck.  When you realized that you are not giving the person enough air and wants to relax your grip a little, you will feel insecure so you decide to hold on even more tightly than you originally did, thus suffocating the person and killing him or her even sooner than expected.

It’s never a good move to hold on to anything too tight in this life, irony is- it includes your life. The saying teaches you to hold on to your dear life but if it’s really time to go, there is nothing much that you can do.

My advise is: Give it room. Give it space. Let it breath and we see how it grow/go from there. Never kill it with your own two hands.

blendedme@ 0323 Hour

D’s

Ooolala, D-cups?

 

No, the D’s here stands for Determined and Determination.

 

This are two very strong and powerful words, at least it depends on what you want in life.  When you are determined in life, you will always - i emphasize on the word “always” get what you want.  You first thought:  ”It’s impossible“.  Your second thought:  ”This is pure bull” but I am here to tell you today that it’s not at all what you”re thinking at.  The phrase “When there’s a will, there’s a way” exists because it is a statement of truth and not some catchy phrase that you throw out at the end of some sentences just to make it look impressive.

 

Note that I say you will get what you want at the end of the day if you are determined, but I never say you will always get it the way you planned it or the way you imagined it turn out to be.  I bet most of you have heard of Murphy’s law:  Anything that can go wrong WILL go wrong.  It hurts to say but at least Murphy’s law is  much more practical in the real life than the Book.  Things will go wrong in so many ways that you could never have imagined and screw you so badly but that’s where the “D” word kicks in.  In face of all the challenges right in front of you, it is of utmost importance that you do not give up in that point of life where you feel that you are at the lowest of your life chart but do whatever you can to get out of that point and reach the next level.  Bypass any challenges or difficulties thrown at you.  Knock on one door, the door might shut tight on you.  Knock on another, the door might just open itself for you.  There’s always endless options for you to choose in life as long as you give it a chance.  If you choose to stop trying at that moment of life, you are shutting down every opportunities out there where one is meant to be yours and at that time, blame no one but yourself.  Do not blame the world for your failures.  The world doesn’t owe you anything.  Period.

 

 

 

Life is a maze.  It could be a-mazing or it could be just a “mess” depending on how you see it.

Long story short, life is like a maze.   You enter from one entrance but there is so many roads where you can choose from and more often than not, you are faced with a dead end but hey, keep trying.  Every wrong turn brings you nearer to the exit and that’s what I mean by determination.  You will find your exit at the end of the day if you would only try.  It may not be within the time limit that you planned and definitely not as easy as how you imagined it to be but you will get there – if only you are determined  and you try hard enough.  Give up half way and you will never see those exit signs but be stuck and lost in the mess that you have chosen to challenge in the first place.

 

There is no such thing as saying that all you do is sit around and do nothing so how could trouble finds you.  Life is a chain reaction thing.  In High School, there is another name for it in Biology class – Circle of Life.  There must be some point of ignition that causes such trouble to find you.  It could be a result from your laziness or anything at all that starts everything in the first place.

 

In anything you do, there will be a cause and when there’s a cause there will be an effect.  Whether such effect is beneficial or a loss to you depends on your calling.  So long as you are determined enough, you will reach the end of your journey.  It might not be what you expected:  Might be better or slightly less than what you are hoping for, it doesn’t matter.  What matters is you have more or less reached your target and this is only the end of the warming up battle.  The actual battle has yet to come:  Hitting your target and increasing your performance but before you get so geared up, ensure you have the double “D’s” first.

 

Last words for you all before bedtime:  Two little mice fell in a bucket of cream. The first mouse quickly gave up and drowned. The second mouse, wouldn’t quit. He struggled so hard that eventually he churned that cream into butter and crawled out. Gentlemen, as of this moment, I am that second mouse.

Ciao.

blendedme@0103 Hour

Armor

Knight in shinning armor?  No.  Not going that direction today.  The type of armor that I want to discuss today is a term that I recently came across.  It’s known as the “psychological armor”.  In short,  it is the inborn human defensive system towards their surroundings.

 

As always, I believe in a balancing act.  Having too strong or too weak of a psychological armor does not benefit the said person and let me give you a tip, you can tell a person’s tell tale sign of characteristic by determining which group of armor they belong to:  the 10-inch titanium made armor or the one made from the recycled paper.

When a person have too strong of a psychological armor, it would mean they are most likely to be stubborn, defensive and in another way, too full of themselves.  Why?  It’s because they come with an occupied mentality or they had formed their decision about a matter so when you give them a suggestion or tell them that it’s wrong, what you will learn from this lesson is:  They are never wrong, you are the one making the mistakes.   Their psychological armor would deflect whatever you are trying to tell them even if what you are telling makes 101% perfect sense and you know for sure it would benefit them but nope, you got it all wrong.  You are at fault, you are to blame and you are never right.  From here, you it’s a simple formula to calculate and come to the equation that this form of people are stubborn, self centered and full of themselves.

 

How bout those who belongs to the category where their armor is made of recycled paper?  In short:  They’ve got no backbone.  They never know how to say NO to another person and they are of the mindset that they must always do whatever others tell them even if it is against their will.  This type of person are those who falls into the characteristic of being too naive (you are 100% entitled to say No to someone else if you don’t want to do it and you have absolutely no obligation to follow some other person’s wish other than yourself), innocent or just plain useless.

 

I would say being in the middle is the best as those who are wearing a normal thickness of psychological armor would be able to evaluate rationally to know what are the things they should listen to and what are the things they should not listen to.  At least they would not be stuck in their own world or stuck in someone else’s world.

 

Armor.  Which one do you belong to?

 

blendedme@ 0313 Hour